Thursday, 17 December 2015

On eating babies..

I meant exactly what you read..

Aarav has been known to ask the most amusing questions ever. Usually I know what to expect and I am ready for them, but sometimes he just throws a googly and I am either giggling my ass off or staring at him stunned.

Today's conversation.

We were watching TV when the new nestle baby food for expecting mothers advertisement came up.

Aarav, "Kasli fat ahe ti"
(look how fat she is!")

On that I spontaneously responded, "Nahi, ticha potat baby ahe."

Aarav was very concerned on hearing this. He immediately asked, "Potat baby ahe! Kasa kay? Tini khalla ka ???"
(In her stomach? But how?? Did she eat it ???)

I literally fell off the chair laughing after I heard this. Later I explained that moms make babies in their tummy. We definitely don't eat them junior!!!

Happiness is?
Humorous conversations!!!!

Monday, 23 November 2015

Khambatki ghat accident 2015

Khandala Luxury bus accident. 22 Oct 4:30 am. Head on collision between Pune bound luxury sleeper volvo and Satara bound luxury bus. Satara bound was being driven wrongly into the one way tunnel road instead of following the Khambatki highway.
2 dead on the spot, 12 critical and 40+ heavily injured.

These were the statistics that got printed across newspapers and news media on 23rd. For the rest of the world, what was just a statistic, for us, another game changer.
Kaustubh, Aarav and I were in the Pune bound bus.

This Sunday was a high tight rope walk between life and death, and despite immense physical and mental trauma, we crossed over to the side that survived.
Multiple impact injuries for Kaustubh and I are negligible if compared to the strength, courage and maturity that Aarav showed. Again.

Aarav broke his left ankle and has been given a full leg cast and 4 weeks of mandatory rest.
After a lot of Ambulances, Police, Hospitals, Doctors, another Operation Theater....
We reached back home yesterday night.....
Feeling grateful and blessed. Someone up there is watching out for us.

Few news links:-

Happiness is?
Alive and kicking!!

Wednesday, 28 October 2015

Tooth Fairy - The unplanned leave escalation..

In the last few days we are getting regular visits from our beloved Tooth Fairy. She makes sure to appreciate the fact that Aarav brushes his teeth diligently twice daily!!

Aarav too likes these nightly chits Tooth Fairy leaves for him daily. On this fateful day, however, the household scribe appointed by the Fairy was too tired and slept early without a note or a good comment.

Aarav did not take the absence well and immediately wrote a note back to ask an explanation of the unplanned leave!!

Good Luck Tooth Fairy, you just got your work cut out for you!!!! ;-)

(Hi I am Aarav Shewale. Why not you come? I brush my teeth today. Please come.
Aarav Shewale)

Happiness is?
Tooth Fairies having to sign Attendance sheets!!!

Thursday, 22 October 2015

Toddler vs Mother - A bad sweaty cough..

Halfway through gobbling down his glass of water, seems that Aarav inhaled a bit of it and called on a good cough...

After patting down and making him feel better, when he stopped coughing I inquired about what happened.

Aarav said, "Mala vattay ki tondacha madhe ghaam ala mala".
(I think I sweated in my throat.)

Hmmm... That's one way to look at it. It really does get watery when we cough, doesn't it?? :-p

Happiness is??
Awesome explanations...

Thursday, 10 September 2015

Aarav's Right Ear Cochlear implant Switch on..

It has been 3 years and 3 months since Aarav's first ear was switched on. And It feels so good to see the switch on video and see how marvellous the experience was.

It did take me that long to publish it though. The path we have traversed was not an easy one. IT has been a roller-coaster of emotions but cant help feel extremely satisfactory and proud!!!

Featured in this video is me, Aarav and our Audiologist, Jyoti Shanbagh. I still thank her everyday for making our switch on experience so beautiful!

Wednesday, 9 September 2015

Awaaj Aala!! A Documentary on Cochlear implants

In the year 2012, shortly after his first cochlear implant surgery, Aarav featured in a Movie called Awaaj Aala. This was a documentary created by Minnie Vaid to create awareness about Cochlear Implants.

> Aarav was just 21 months old, just 3 months post surgery.
> Aarav was one of the four candidates who were selected part of the documentary film for Cochlear implants.
> Aarav was the youngest of all the kids in the movie.

When we started our Cochlear implant journey, we knew we would have to learn a lot. But we never expected that Aarav would help us have exposure to so many new and varied things!!

This movie completed processing in 2012 end of year and was broadcast on many news channels across India. Finally, this can now be uploaded and published on Youtube.

This is the full movie for your viewing.

A documentary Movie on Cochlear implants.

PART 01 :

PART 02 :

PART 03 : 

Even today, when we see this movie it moves us. We have come a long way from living life in silence to sound!!

So Proud!! 

Toddler vs Mother - Chocos in. Chocos out.

Date - 06/02/2015
Reminiscing a few old posts that never got posted.......
Last week Aarav had viral dysentery. Poor kid had a very bad week. He couldn't eat comfortably and anything he did caused him to run to the wash room. Quite tiring.
His doctor prescribed medicines and told us to keep an eye on how his stomach was and the level of stomach pain he had. To do this, I used to keep asking how his potty looked and felt and did it pain....

Aarav, "Aai mazhi potty zhali.(Mom, finished my potty)
Me, "ok, kashi hoti?(how was it?)
Aarav, "dukhli ani black and 7 potty ali." (It pained and was black and there were 7 pieces)
Me, "ok"

Aarav, "Aai mazhi potty zhali."
Me, "ok, kashi hoti?"
Aarav, "dukhli ani black and fakta 3 potty ali. Ani shushu pan ali(It pained and was black and there were only 3 pieces. And I peed also)
Me, "ok"

Aarav, "Aai mazhi potty zhali."
Me, "ok, kashi hoti?"
Aarav, "maumau ani brown and fakta 3 potty ali.(It was soft and brown and only 3 pieces)
Me, "ok. Dukhli ka?(did it pain?)
Aarav,"nai dukhli(No, No pain)
Me, "aah good tummy days are back!!"

This was a week back but Aarav is still dutifully telling me all details. This was the conversation yesterday when we were snacking on Chocos

Aarav, "Aai, tu mala Chocos dileli khayla athavla?"

(Mom, you gave me Chocos to eat remember?)

Me," ho?(Yes?)

Aarav, "Athavla ka??(Do you remember?)

Me," ho daycare madhe na? Athavla mala. Pudhe bol ki"
(Yes To eat in your daycare. I remember, what about it?)

Aarav," aaj mala Chocos chi potty ali.(Today My potty was like Chocos)

Me, half way through eating chocos," kaaay??        (Whaaat?)

Aarav looking to my chocos bowl," ho. Brown ani maumau ani choti choti chocos chi 11 potty." (It was brown and soft and small small Choco 11 pieces.)

I kept my half eaten bowl down. I'll never be able to eat chocos again.

Extremely correct descriptions of everything!!!

Monday, 24 August 2015

Object oriented Bribery!!!

Aarav loves vehicals. Especially cars. He is much more well versed with all the car brands and car names than I am. Whenever we are out for a ride, he is busy peeking out the window and naming out cars. A normal volume for a normal car and a super high volume for every super car seen.
He will put Justin Beiber fans to shame the moment they see him spot a Jaguar or a Porsce. He's that high pitched.

So last week when we bought a new printer, that was his first request. "Print me cars."

So we googled and put all nice cars in a doc file and printed him 22 cars, one of those is a Police BMW that he absolutely loves. He even told me that he now needs a bigger print. After the bigger print, he realised you cant play with a printout, so he said he wants a real one. :-O

So to get him a real one, we think it needs to be earned and not just gifted. So we told him that he needs to finish 20 pages writing first.

To keep track, this is the page we created. Aarav has written it all.. and the target to achieve as well :-)

Thursday, 20 August 2015

Naag Panchami and Mehendi designs!

Aarav and I celebrated Nag Panchami thanks to Aarav school calender. It reminded me that Aarav was to have Nag Panchami celebration. So I told him how Naag (or the Cobra) is worshipped and how we put mehendi and have sweets.

Aarav, was most interested in the Mehendi. It has been a while since I drew ant so he had not seen thia. He wanted to have some drawn on his hand as well and as school has permitted, I was ok as well.

Aarav then made a well thought out request to have and I quote, "Mala ek happy Ganpati bappa, mottha nagoba, chote baby nagoba, ek flower and 5 stars havet." And he added, " Aai, tu pan matching happy Ganpati bappa draw kar"

(I want a happy Ganpati bappa, a big cobra, small baby cobras, one flower and five stars........ Aai, you also draw a matching happy lord Ganesha.)

And so we did.

Happiness is....
All the small joys of life!!!

Sunday, 16 August 2015

Awaaj Aala - Interview with Minnie Vaid, author and Director of Awaaj Aala held by Godrej Culture Lab.

This is one of the best videos that I have seen in a long long time!!!

Minnie Vaid, Author and Director of Awaaj Aala speaks in a function about her movie.

In this film screening and discussion held at Godrej India Culture Lab on 4th October 2013, Minnie Vaid talked about her documentary film Awaaz Aala. The film talks about cochlear implants for hearing-impaired children. The talk was made even more informative when an audience member explained how her son's cochlear implant functions.

Loving it!!

The documentary movie is coming up available for public viewing very very soon.....
Watch this space...

Thursday, 13 August 2015

Time stops at 12??

As a part of school syllabus Aarav has completed counting from 1-100 and reverse. And he knows his numbers very well now.

Early morning today Aarav and were cuddling in bed chit chatting.. Well, he was talking and I was nodding as he had not yet put his Neptunes on..

Aarav, "
He asa wrong kela. 12 mag 13 asta. 13ch nahie. 12 mag 1 asa wrong lihilay."
This is wrong. 13 comes after 12. There is no 13. 1 after 12 is wrongly written)

"Kuthe wrong lihilay", I asked.
(Where is it wrongly written?)

Aarav, "Te kay. Clock madhe fakta 12ch ahe. 13ch nahie."
(There. The clock has only 12  there is no 13.)

It is times like these that amuse me to no end. I don't remember ever asking these doubts. Aarav has the most amazing questions :-)

Happiness is??
Questions and more discussions!!

Wednesday, 12 August 2015

AB misspelled it all!!

As a school requirement, we are required to label all of Aarav's belongings. So wrong labels are not accepted by Aarav anymore and the following happens.....

Aarav wears his Neptunes in the lanyard. While changing clothes today, Aarav suddenly remembered something about his Neptune pouch, so he held it up for me to see and told me, "Aai. He wrong ahe."
(Mom, this is wrong)

I said, "wrong kay?"
(What's wrong?)

Aarav, "Ikde AB asa lihilay. A A R A V asa havae. Mazha naav AB nahie. Aarav ahe na? Mhanun he wrong ahe. Tu he repair kar"
(It is written as AB here. My name is not AB. My name is AARAV. That's why this is wrong. You please repair this)

I couldn't help laughing, "ho, apan sangu tyanna wrong spelling takla ani correct spelling taka".
(Yes, we will tell them that they put the wrong spelling and we'll get it repaired.)

Happiness is...
Advanced Bionics should be named as AARAV and not AB!!!

Friday, 7 August 2015

My friend has pretty long hair!!

10 pm at night and packing up the Neptunes to go to sleep now. Aarav picks up the Neptunes and lanyard and tells me this....

Aarav, "Aai, Shamika ahe na tiche khoop lamb kes ahet."
(Mom, my friend Shamika has really long hair)

Me, "Hmmm accha"
(Hmm ok)

Aarav, "Tula dakhavu??? He bagh ashe."
(You want to see?? See .... long hair like this!)

Lol lol. Indeed!!!

Wednesday, 29 July 2015

Toddlers too like peace and quiet!!

Morning school routines are hectic. Wake up in time.. wake Aarav up.. Give him a bath.. wipe him down without turning the towel into a gaming zone...dress him up.. brush teeth.. comb.. socks shoes.. breakfast and wash up again .. tv .. daily instructions...
Quite hectic..
Kaustubh and I act fast and basically just let Aarav just stand there and we run around him like a pitstop.

Apparently its hectic for the little toddler as well who today morning gave me a piece of his mind.

When he was being unwrapped from the towel and had been pushed 3/4th into the shirt, he turned around, flexed his jaw and looked straight at me.... and said, "Mala jara don minta shanta basude ki tu. Kay karties asa"
(Can you please let me sit in peace for two minutes?? What behaviour is this!)

:-p lol. Couldn't help giggling.

Monday, 27 July 2015

Toddler vs Mother - July! Get out already!!

Aarav has been waiting for his birthday for way too long now. He hates the fact that a lot of people have their birthday before his. And others have their birthday after his also!

He dislikes this because then he has to clap more times the gets clapped for. He shares his dissapointment everytime when any of his friends come to school in colored dress for their birthday and he is stuck wearing the uniform. Painfully unfair for a toddler to tolerate.

So to explain how months work, we told him that it is July now, then August then September and then October and his birthday.
This was a few weeks back and he asks everyday, "Sampla ka July?" (Is July finished?)

Finally after hearing the same answer for weeks, he said to us last night.

Aarav, "Aai, mi na July la dhakklun denare."
(Mom, I am going to push July out now)

Me, "ka re?"
(But why?)

Aarav, "mala nahi avdat. Sarkha sarkha Julych yeto. Mhanun dhaklun denare."
(I dont like it. It keeps coming back.So I'll push it away)

Me, "ok. Mag kay hoil?"
(Ok. Then what will happen?)

Aarav, "May August yeil na. Mag August la pan dhakalun taknar. Mag September la pan dhakalun denar. Mag mazha October yeil!!! Mag mazha Happpy Birthday!!"
(Then August will come. Then I'll push August out. Then I'll push September also. And then my October will come and I'll have my happy birthday!!!)

The boy makes sense!!!
Haha!! This is pushing time out.. literally!!

Happiness is...
Logical problem solving.. !!


Saturday, 25 July 2015

Toddler vs Mother - My Smelly stinky Mother!!!

On Friday, we had our speech therapy. Aarav went to school in the morning and then had lunch in his daycare. I also got half of my office work done early morning and literally ran to pick him up for the therapy. The monsoon rain does make things slow...

On the way to KEM, Aarav and I were watching the rain from the richskaw conversing as usual. It was a beautiful soft drizzle that doesn't get you drenched, but softly settles on you and then seeps in leaving tiny droplets on the surface. Much like a freshly sprayed bouquet...

Now, both of us love this rain. However, I got wet till I got the rickshaw. My hair was damp and shoes were squeaking with all the water in them. I just made sure that Aarav was dry atleast till therapy was done.

Back to the present, this is the conversation that followed with Aarav scooting close to me and I hugging him.

Aarav, "Aai mag apan....." stopped midway through a dialog and sniffed the air. "Mala kasla tari vas yetoy"
(I smell something funny)

Me, "Kasla re?"
(What's that?)

Aarav held my hand close, and inspected it and then concluded, "Tuzha hatacha vaas yetoy"
(Your hand smells funny)

Me, "Hatacha kasla vaas are?"
(Why would my hand smell?)

Aarav thought for a bit and then concluded, "Mala asa vattay, ki tu anghol nahi kelies."
(I have a feeling that you have not had a bath)

By this time, I figured that all the bath time instructions were going to come back at me and bite me in the ass. This was the weirdest place to discuss bathing routines and yet here we were, discussing them in a rickshaw, with the driver only a foot away, in a loud and clear voice.

Now the only thing I could pray was that somehow the richshaw driver would magically forget Marathi and not understand a word.

And I said, "Aarav, mazhi anghol zhalie."
(I have had a bath today)

Aarav countered , "barr... pan mala asa vattay ki tu neet nahi anghol kelis. Tu saban nahi lavlaes. Mala panyacha vaas yetoy."
(Ok. But I still think you did not wash up properly. You dint use soap. I can smell water)

By now I could feel the drivers ears peaking up. Even a giggle or two maybe...

Me, "are mi pausat bhijle Aarav. Yenarach ola vaas. Oli zhalie mi"
(I got wet in the rain Aarav, im dripping wet. You are smelling rain off me)

Aarav thought for a while and then replied, "ok. Pan next time neet anghol kar ok. Saban gheun neet bubbles karun wash wash wash karun anghol kar. Ashi ghanerdi anghol nako karus."
(Ok, next time please take a proper bath ok. Take a good soap and make bubbles and have a bath. Dont take a dirty bath like you did today.)

The driver probably had an asthamatic attack because of hiding his guffaws. And all I could do was to change the topic to something far far away....

Teach him to talk, wont you?? Tell him to speak his mind wont you?? Lol.

Happiness is...
Boy talks a lot !!  Where's the bloody mute button???

Tuesday, 21 July 2015

Antennas of an Ant!!!

A very pensive Aarav told me today morning, "Aai, mi atta baghitla. Mungicha nose la pan 2 pay udat astat".
(Mom, I saw today. There are two flying legs on an ant's nose)

Amused I said, "Pay nahiet, Dokyala antenna astat tyani mungi jevan shodhate"
(Not legs, ants have antennae on their head to search for food).

With this new found knowledge, Aarav informed Kaustubh, "Baba. mungi cha nose cha dokyala don antenna che pay astat. Payani mungi poli kuthe poli kuthe asa shodhate."
(Dad, on the head of the nose of an ant, there are two legs of antennae with which ant searches, where's my chapatti where's my chapatti!!)

Happiness is..
Antenna che pay!! Legs of an antenna!!!

Monday, 20 July 2015

Houston, we have lift off...

The routine is, Aarav shouting..

"10. 9. 8. 7. 6. 5. 4. 3. 2. 1. 0"

"Kai nai."


"Aai thamb."

10 9 8 7 6543210

Plop!! Splash!! Plop!!

Aaaiiii... sheee zhalliii.... saaf kar.
(Mom... potty done. Please clean!!)

Monday, 6 July 2015

Strings of a Kite....

For some reason this forwarded message felt good....
Life puts us in all sorts of situations.. instead of barging forward without preparation, it is ok to take a step back and strenghten the chord that holds us.

Interesting story..
A Father is flying a kite. His son is watching him carefully.

After some time son says "Dad. Because of the string, the kite is not able to go further higher."

Hearing this, the father smiles and breaks the string.

The kite goes higher and higher after breaking. The son is very happy. But then shortly after that it comes and falls on the ground.

The child is very dejected and sad. Then the father sits next to him and calmly explains:

"Son, in life we reach a certain level of prosperity and then we feel that there are certain things in our life that are not letting us grow any further……… like Home, Family, Culture, Friendship, commitments, problems etc.
We feel we want to be free from those strings which we believe are stopping us from going higher."

But, remember son. Going higher is easier than staying higher…… Never ever forget that friends, family and culture, commitments, our problems etc are the Strings that will help us stay stable at the high we have achieved. If we try to break away from those strings our situation will be of this kite."

Happiness is??

Knowing what our strings are...

Saturday, 4 July 2015

High-end implants bring sound to Profoundly Deaf Children... good or bad??

The Indian government have initiated scheme to support cochlear implant surgeries for those underprivileged classeso earn 15000rs mnthly. Thats 150£ or 750$ monthly.

I am extremly happy that the government is thinking on these lines. But have they thought about everything??

It is one thing to support the CI surgery but nowhere does it mention about continued support..
For those who cannot afford petrol.. giving them a free Ferrari will always feel awesome but for how long? Wont it last only till the fuel runs out?

What next?
What of maintainance?
What of speech therapy and accompanied costs?
What of life time support?
Who bears the brunt of these costs? You add taxes on the common man or use the black money from the pockets of the babus (rotfl) ??
Do you think you can get a working NHS system to regulate the usage?
Do you plan to have insurances for medical support devices??
How do you plan to create awareness and education to those classes to understand what they are getting into??

So, dear Govt, forgive me for being a cynic, but you let these kids get a CI surgery and no promises of support??

So in the veil of help, you finance a bottom of the line implant that destroys residual hearing for these kids, basically kill what exists if any, push them into hearing world and then abruptly pull them out and think it is their fault? Then you blame the parents who in turn will blame our good doctors who too will now be beaten and burdened from both your government's beurocratic rules and the wrath of ignorant parents.... and not even get paid for it..

Do you even know how much the cost of maintainance of a CI life is??

Instead of pointing them to a sign language life, that might be financially a better option for those who can barely make two meals daily (150£ monthly income let me remind you) you now expect them to cough up money to maintain them.

If this part has not been thought out, then this will fail. It is inevitable.
Is it now worse than what they had?

But if they have considered it, then think about how this will in turn affect those who are paying.. ie the rest of us who earn say 151£ mnthly????

As far as I have heard, this plan is a old attempt already done in Kerela etc and failed.

Look at the big picture. I do wish Cochlear implants to reach out to the masses, but if this does not get the needed financial support later on, this will be bad publicity for CI.

It feels like a bungee jump with dental floss tied across the feet. I am scared for them. Very scared.

Whether it is progress or a gimmick or a potential threat to the good name of Cochlear implants... I am a little skeptical.

I pray that I am wrong and things go well. Time will tell....

Tuesday, 23 June 2015

Toddler vs Mother - Dirty girls.. Sheee Shee She

Reading a book the other day, Aarav and Kaustubh were discussing the words as they came along. Kaustubh has enormous patience to handle the little easily distracted toddler and can get lots of pages read out of him in each sitting... I just watch at times like this and enjoy the sessions....
On this day, they were reading a book about Raja and Rani and pronouns had just been introduced.

The line read, "This is Rani. She has a cat"

Aarav, "She.. shee mhanje kay?" And then pointing at the girl in the picture, "girl shee-shee ahe ka? Tila potty ali ka?"

Kaustubh pointing at the girl, " She mhanje hi girl"

Aarav made a weird face and replied, "girl Shee ahe?"

Kautubh, "Nahi Aarav, Potty mhanje shee-shee. She mhanje 'ti'. Chal pudhe vaach"

Jui, "Kaustubh, ek sec. Aarav, 'To' mhanje 'He' ani ti girl ahe na mhanje 'she' asa mhantat. Girls shi shi nastat..."

Aarav, "Aai tu shee-shee nahie ga... hi book madhe girl ahe ti shee-shee ahe. Tu chan ahes."

Stupid english language. Lol.

Monday, 8 June 2015

Toddler vs Mother - Part 07 Dining and drinking...

After spending 20 minutes not eating fast, I started pushing Aarav to speed up during dinner...

Jui, "Aarav neet jevaycha, chaun khaycha patata jevan sampavaycha. Tu jevtana chul kay bhartoys?? Neet jevanakade laksha de."
(Aarav, eat properly. Chew properly and eat fast. Why are you rinsing your mouth in between dinner?? Pay attention and have your dinner fast.)

Aarav gulps down the water and very cooly replies, "Aai. Mi Pani pan chaun chaun khatoy."
(Aai, I am chewing water as well and eating it fast.)

Umm.... ok then.

Wednesday, 29 April 2015

What's that line on your head??

Its been 8 days post surgery and 3 days since the bandage was removed. We had kept Aarav at home these few days with just a few small bike or car rides around town. Aarav however misses his friends in the daycare a lot. So yesterday I dropped him at the daycare again. The lady who runs the daycare, asked what precautions should I take and I replied, just make sure that none of the kids touch near the head or touch the wound. Rest all is ok..
All other kids and Aarav too heard this and immwdiately all other kids started asking what happened to his head..

Chinmay, "Kay zhala ithe? Laglae ka"
(What happened here, are you hurt?)

Aarav pointed two fingers at him like a Victory sign and said, "Naai. Two machines ahe."
(No, two machines are present)

Nevaan, "kuthe? Baghu?"
(Where? Show?)

Aarav turned his head around like an owl showing the old and the new, "Ithe ani Ithe. Atta aat taklae machine. Ear cha aat. Ithe haat nai lavaycha. Machine ahe"
(Here and here, inside my ear. Dont touch this place. The machine is inside.)

The kids peered on for a few seconds and as the wound was not entertaining them at all, they just went back to playing like always :-)

Happiness is?

Self Advocacy!!! And Aarav loves the fact that he now has two machines!!!

Saturday, 25 April 2015

Bilateral CI Surgery : Day T+5 Helmets off!!!

The head bandages were removed today!!

The wound has healed and looks good as well. There are no stitches seen at all. Usually you can see stitches once the wound is exposed. The last CI surgery we were so busy worrying that we never realised that we never asked about this. So this time I had it on my list to ask. What I heard was amazing!!

There are no stitches at all. None!!
The skin is superglued together with a medicinal glue.. so the skin basically is stuck back together when the work is done. No punctures or stitches on the skin!!!

No wonder the hair is not damaged. Only the fine line of the incision loses the hair folicles. The rest are preserved :-)

Now I am no doctor to tell you the details.... but this was just too pretty cool!! The wound also looks healed immediately and there is no worry about multiple dressing and possible infections etc. In fact, Aarav has been allowed to take a head bath tomorrow. That is just 6 days post surgery. Bloody amazing!!!

The wound and the implant inside has caused a small mound on his tiny head.. but I think that was even on the first surgery. We just never noticed these finer details then.

The last time we were freaking out at every sneeze.. this time we knew what to expect. The week was a smooooth breeze.

Again, No issues before or after surgery. No leakage no wound issue. No facial or nervous glitches. No change in behaviour, pain, etc.
A real smooth surgery indeed.

All credit to our Surgeon Dr V, and the KEM Big Ears team. Love them!!!

After the bandage was removed Aarav was back to his usual self, bot that the bandage held him back, but still :-)

So helmet-less Aarav for you :-)

Happiness is?

Smiles and more smiles all over.

Friday, 24 April 2015

What's that on your head?? Puneri Pagdi ka kay hi??

Bilateral CI surgery Lt ear.
Date T+4 after surgery.

After sitting at home for almost 10 days, Aarav wanted to go meet his daycare friends today.. partly out of sheer boredom, probably due to us being overly protective these few days and partly to show off his newly bought Cars. So we dropped him at his daycare and let him play and meet his friends. He enjoyed that little break a lot!!

Now remember folks, Aarav still has the Surgery bandage on his head. So at night we asked him about his experience with that..

I asked, "Aaj Nevaan kade kay kelas?"
(What did you do at Nevaan's today?.. Nevaan is his best friend in the daycare.)
Aarav said, "Khoop khelalo. Ani car khelalo. Ani fire engine khelalo. Ani pakada pakdi  khelalo"
(Played a lot. And played with car. And with fite engine. Ani we played chase and catch.)
Me, "Tula koni vicharla nai ka dokya var kay ahe"
(Did anyone ask you what's on your head)
Aarav, "naai vicharla"
(Dint ask.)
Me, "konich nahi vicharla?? Ajibat nai??"
(No one asked? None at all??)
Aarav thought for a sec and replied, "Om ni vicharla."
(Om asked. Om is another friend at the daycare)
Me, "ho ka, kay vicharla?"
(Really, what did he ask?)
Pointing to his head Aarav said, "he kay ahe asa"
(He asked, What is this, like that)
Quite intrigued I pushed on, "Mag tu kay sangitlas?"
(So then what did you tell?)
Aarav explained, "Mi bolalo ki te mazha helmet ahe mhanun."
(I told him that this is my Helmet)
Amazed and surprised at his reply, "helmet?? Mag to kay mhanla?"
(Helmet, so what did he say??)
Aarav, "Mag to mhanla ki 'accha barra' asa."
(So then he said 'oh okay' like that.)

We usually call his bandage a helmet as it looks like one or a 'Pagdi', the traditional Puneri headwear. Aarav too used the same name!!

Happiness is??

Puneri Pagdi maanachi!! The honorable Puneri Pagdi saves the day!!!

Tuesday, 21 April 2015

Bilateral CI Surgery : Day T+1 Xray & Discharge

Date 21-04-2015

Another super fast day today..

After the early morning checkups by the resident doctors we were asked to go get an Xray of the implant and electrode array. That was like a mini vacation for Aarav as he enjoyed the car ride after being cooped up in the room for 2 days.

The XRay is awesome. Can't tell how amazing it feels just to see the handiwork of our doc...

After we returned back to the hospital, had our lunch and then filled our AB order form for New Neptune...

Our doctor gave us a clean chit by 2 pm and gave a go ahead on getting discharged. It took a lot of time however for the paper clearances to be done. We were given a discharge by 6:30 and we were home by 7:30pm today.


After so much anxiety for years since the first implant, this feels not as complicated as I thought it to be. In fact, these last three days couldn't have been smoother. All thanks to our Doc, Dr V and her team.

Just 15 minutes for the date to change , I'll now be closing off for the day for now. See you all soon.....

Happiness is??
Another hurdle crossed.....

Monday, 20 April 2015

Bilateral CI Surgery : Day T, Surgery day

Date - 20-04-2015

The day has been lightning fast, so just a snippet post...

The surgery prep processes started at 6:15 am. Aarav was given an injection and we got him dresses up in the patient scrubs..

He enjoyed the ride on the stretcher to the operation theater and we had entered the OT campus by 6:45am.

Surgery started at 7:30 am and lasted for two hours. We were allowed to meet Aarav at 10:30 am in the post-op resting room.

The anaesthetia wore off and Aarav was moved back to the room at 11:30 am.


Surgery has been good and Aarav is feeling good now. Has some fever but thats ok. Rest all the perfect.

More later ...

Happiness is??

Finally bilateral!!!

Sunday, 19 April 2015

Bilateral CI Surgery : Day T-1 Admitted to KEM

Reached and admitted to KEM today at 4pm...

Oh btw.. the room we got had a lock and they couldn't find the key.. So till they got it sorted, we spend time walking around the hallways and chit chatting and taking selfies :-p

So for this post, you guys get a good selfie to look at :-)

Bilateral CI Surgery : Day T-1

It has been a long time since I wrote about this topic but it was always an important one for us. It took us just 3 months from knowing about the hearing loss to getting the first Cochlear implant surgery done. This time, however, it took us three full years.
Life does move faster and slower at the same time when you have big decisions to take...

The decision to go bilateral has finally been taken and we are in the process of implementing it now.

The preliminary procedures have all been done, the implant has been selected, the big date decided.. now to follow it through.

Sequential Bilateral Cochlear Implant Surgery for Left ear has been scheduled on date 20th April 2015.

We will be getting admitted to KEM tomorrow (or today since I am blogging at 12:55 am :-p) and the rest will follow..

No elaborate posts for the next few days, weeks, months.. just snippets for a memory.


Happiness is??

Finally Bilateral!!!

Tuesday, 31 March 2015

Toddler vs Mother - Part 02 How to Ginger up the kitchen??

Date - 18/02/2014 04:27
Reminiscing a few old posts that never got posted.......

A small piece of ginger was sitting on the kitchen granite near Aarav's afternoon snack. He came in the kitchen, saw it and analysed it from afar. For once, I didn't identify it immediately & let him think. He watched the ginger piece from a distance for a few minutes...

And then, just as I was about to pick up the ginger to grate in my tea, Aarav shouted, "Aai.Eeee. Nako. Shee ahe. Two choti shee."

Jui, "But it is clean ginger, no soil.. what is it Aarav??"

Aarav, "Shee ahe. Two shee. Eee. Ja paani aan. Wash wash"

It took me a while to make the connection.
Of alllll the things possible.. he thought someone with a bad stomach stayed in my kitchen and did his business on my Kitchen table top!!! !! 


Identify asap.. before boy equates good food to.. well you know

Monday, 30 March 2015

Toddler vs Father - Part 01 On handling Disobedient Fathers...

Date - 13/05/2014 06:29
Reminiscing a few old posts that never got posted.......

Kaustubh was getting Aarav dressed up for playground activities today morning. Aarav on the other hand, was holding his brand new VW bus in one hand and clinging on to Kaustubh with the other and oblivious to what Kaustubh was asking him to do, watching television with extreme concentration.

Kaustubh, "Aarav, bus thev. Shirt ghal"

Kaustubh, "Aarav, aik are. Shirt ghal. Bus thev padel ti"

And then Kaustubh just pushed Aarav into the shirt. As predicted, when his hand came out of the shirt, the bus fell down.

Aarav, "Baba!! Sorry mhan. Bus padli".

Kaustubh, "Tu bus padlis, mi nai.Shirt ghal ata".

Aarav, "Nai. Tu bus padlis." And with extra dramatic effects, "Sorry mhaaan. Waa".

Jui, "kay zhala Aarav?"

Aarav turned to me with a big elaborate complaint, "Baba shirt aat. Ani baba ataa shirt mala aat. Bus thevli nai. Baba bus khali padli. Baba waa. Sorry mhan baba."
This is still not good enough. He with gestures clearly explained that while making him wear a shirt, Kaustubh dropped his bus.
I wish I could pour out my memories on video because that was absolutely brilliant!!

Complaints and more complaints from the little Toddler!!

Saturday, 28 March 2015

Toddler vs Mother - Part 05 On being a Bibliophiliac..

Date - 03/04/2014 11:11
Reminiscing a few old posts that never got posted.......
Aarav has this habit of wanting to be the 'Good boy' and always wants to be the 'first' one at anything. Its a very useful want!!
So when I need to get him to do anything, I just say - I am going to be the first one to do x or y or z. It doesn't matter what the event is, he always contests and wins!! 

10:20 pm
Time to sleep and we were lying in bed. Aarav had found one of my souvenir tiny books and started looking through it.

10:25 pm
I switched off the lights and got in bed.

Me, "Aarav, bag mi first zhople."

Aarav, "Mi first zhopla."

Me, "Nai, tu book vachtoys. Mi eyes banda kelet."

Aarav, "Nai. Mi eyes banda and book vachto."

Ummm ok...

In English.....
(Translation is for understanding.. Aarav still is missing out conjugations and conjunctions.. but you guys enjoy :-) )
10:20 pm

Time to sleep and we were lying in bed. Aarav had found one of my souvenir tiny books and started looking through it.

10:25 pm
I switched off the lights and got in bed.

Me, "Aarav, see I'm the first one to sleep."

Aarav, "I slept first."

Me, "No, you are reading the book. My eyes are closed"

Aarav, "NoI am reading the book with my eyes closed..."

Ummm ok...


Sensible conversations that can even outsmart the mother!!

Toddler vs Mother - Part 04 On being an insensitive bully Mother...

Date - 25/04/2014 10:15
Reminiscing a few old posts that never got posted.......
Aarav got mad at me yesterday. Now that's not new actually, its a normal emotion that we feel for each other very regularly.
But yesterday he got offended, hurt and mad. A deadly combination.

11:30 pm.
The boy really has a extra reserve of energy that he uses when we try to sleep. So he kept running around and jumping on the bed and me. While the bed is rather kind, I reacted a bit "human-like". 

When he kicked me one too many times, I caught hold of the tiny ping-pong ball of a human, held him in place, picked him up, brought him to bed and tucked him in. And told him to sleep.

Aarav looked at me with big puppy eyes, and then started sulking....

This is how it went.....

So then, I asked him, "kay zhala Aarav?? chidlas ka?"
(What happened Aarav, are you angry?)

Aarav teared up, "hmm."

Me, "ka chidlas bol. Kay zhala??"
(Why are you angry? What happened?)

Aarav was crying now.. with a lot of emotion thrown in...

I held him close and prompted him to speak, "Aarav bol. 'Aai....' "
(Aarav say it... "Aai..")

Aarav, "Aai wa kela. PakadlaUchala. Ani fekla." All with a demo...
(Aai scolded, caught, picked up and threw me away)

Awww.... my baby!! 
I did, but did not really think of it as I was to "catch you, pick you up and throw you!!"

Toddlers see the world differently.. Try their perspective someday...

Toddler vs Mother - Part 03 How to make your point heard...

Date - 25/04/2014 10:15
Reminiscing a few old posts that never got posted.......
Aarav walked up to me and very shyly whispered, "Aai"

Usually we ask him to speak up and properly and loudly. And these whispered words were not in that category... Besides, I was a bit too busy watching the television so I dint reply..

Aarav, "Aaai"
Still on tv...

Aarav said a bit louder, "Aaaaaiieee"
Still nothing...

Aarav, "aaa Aaaai"
Grunted a 'hmm' but dint look at him..

Aarav, "A Jui"

Now that was intriguing, did he just call me by my name? So I looked at Aarav, "ho Aarav, kay?"

Aarav folded his hands and scrunched his tiny forehead in irritation, "Mala potty ali. Uth. tv nako baghu. Chal ooth."

Oh ok. Well it is extremely urgent then... lets go!!!

Pay attention!!

Toddler vs Mother - Part 01 How to teach your Mom a lesson?

Date - 19/03/2014 20:26
Reminiscing a few old posts that never got posted.......

Aarav has this habit of wanting to be the 'Good boy' and always wants to be the 'first' one at anything. Its a very useful want!!

So when I need to get him to do anything, I just say - I am going to be the first one to do x or y or z. Because I am hungry or thirsty or whatever reason..

It doesn't matter what the event is, he always contests and wins!! And then he gets me to clap for him and say good-boy and wow!!
And both of us are happy!!

Yesterday night 10:30 pm.
Jui, "Mazhe dole damleChote zhalet. Mi aaj first zhopnare."

Aarav playing on the cell phone, "Mazhe dole mothe. Mi zhop nahi. Tu zhop."

Jui, "Aarav mi first zhopu?"

Aarav looked at me with a curious expression. Got his blanket and walked up to me. Yay! I thought I won!
But little did I know, Aarav was now playing 'mom'.
Aarav lovingly held me and then calmly but sternly, "AaiAwaj band. Eyes band. Wa. Light band karu? Zhop.
Aai Good boy."
Clap clap.

And then Aarav held me wrapped up in his blanket, with one hand holding my eyes closed and with the other back to his mobile game. 

One rule applies to all!! No mobile at bed time for anyone.

Monday, 23 March 2015

Why me God?? Finally answered..

Arthur Ashe, the Legendary Wimbledon Player was dying of AIDS which he got due to Infected Blood he received during a Heart Surgery in 1983!

He received letters from his fans, one of which conveyed:
"Why did God have to select you for such a bad disease??"

To this Arthur Ashe replied:
50 Million children started playing Tennis.

5 Million learnt to play Tennis.

5 Lakhs learnt Professional Tennis.

50 Thousand came to Circuit.

5 Thousand reached Grandslam.

50 reached Wimbledon.

4 reached the Semifinals.

2 reached the Finals and when I was holding the cup in my hand,
I never asked God
"Why Me?"

So now in Pain how can I ask God "Why Me?"

Happiness keeps you Sweet!!
Trials keeps you Strong!! Sorrows keeps you Human!!
Failure keeps you Humble!!
Success keeps you Glowing!!
But only,
Faith keeps you Going!

I thought this was definately worth a Share..

Sometimes you are
unsatisfied with your life,
while many people in
this world are dreaming
of living your life..

Tuesday, 24 February 2015

Dabang Policeman!!!

Aarav's school has a show and tell on Community helpers. Aarav is to be a Policeman.
Oh big point to mention, He has to speak 5-6 lines in English.

Our first language at home and always has been Marathi. His school, however is an English medium school and now Aarav is learning and picking up English as well!!!

So here it is....

I am a Policeman.
I have police car.
I catch bad people.
I strong Police.
I whistle.I cap.
I ... I walkie talkie - teee hello hello Police commissioner teee.
I use gun. Dhishau dhishau..
I strong Policeman.

             Being at a loss of words :-)

Saturday, 14 February 2015

Understanding My Child!!

Recieved this forwarded message today. It holds merit!!

Tirukkural  by Tiruvalluvar ( a Tamil  poet/writer) was written more than 5000 yrs ago. It’s one of the ancient science on Human behaviour, which has not changed inspite of modern education  & technology ! 


1. If your child lies to you often, it is because you over-react too harshly to their inappropriate behaviour.

2. If your child is not taught to confide in you about their mistakes, you’ve lost them.

3. If your child had poor self-esteem, it is because you advice them more than you encourage them.

4. If your child does not stand up for themselves, it is because from a young age you have disciplined them regularly in public.

5. If your child takes things that do not belong to them, it is because when you buy them things, you don’t let them chose what they want.

6. If your child is cowardly, it is because you help them too quickly.

7. If your child does not respect other people’s feelings, it is because instead of speaking to your child, you order and command them.
8. If your child is too quick to anger, it is because you give too much attention to misbehaviour and you give little attention to good behaviour.

9. If your child is excessively jealous, it is because you only congratulate them when they successfully complete something and not when they improve at something even if they don’t successfully complete it.

10. If your child intentionally disturbs you, it is because you are not physically affectionate enough.

11. If your child is openly defiant, it is because you openly threaten to do something but don’t follow through.

12. If your child is secretive, it is because they don’t trust that you won’t blow things out of proportion.

13. If your child talks back to you, it is because they watch you do it to others and think its normal behaviour.

14. If your child doesn’t listen to you but listens to others, it is because you are too quick to jump to conclusions

15. If your child rebels it is because they know you care more about what others think than what is right.

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